In almost all cases of anxiety, depression and anger related issues, the common need as previously mentioned is relaxation. This is why we needed to have a common understanding of what relaxation actually is.
We have a need to be in intellectual control to determine the correct course of action in our lives. This includes making informed choices, which may lead us into unfamiliar territory with the aim of meeting new challenges and conquering old bad and unhelpful habits as we do.
Habits are key to the effectiveness of every human being. We can think of habits as skills on autopilot. They are reactions, and pre-programmed automatic actions that are very much within our zone of familiarity. But here’s the problem, they don’t always support our goals, and sometimes even sabotage our best intentions extremely effectively.
So, if we want to change an old habit, whether that be a fear response pattern or anything else for that matter, we must first get intellectually clear about what exactly it is that we are asking of ourselves, what that looks like, and what that feels like, to build new connections that support our worthwhile goals.
Whenever the primitive mind is in charge, we will not be able to come up with new answers and responses to old questions or situations. Instead, we need to get our anxiety down, and the stress bucket emptied, which is done first and foremost through practicing the opposite of the negative cause.
For these reasons, we must always be aiming at increasing our relaxation and confidence. With less stress in the bucket comes greater acuity to the needs of others, and greater self-control, which allows us to choose how to conduct ourselves. This allows us to create rapport and be more mindful about the way we do our interactions.
We will also be happier, more motivated and more productive when we have a constant flow of serotonin and we will get a much better deal from life and all of life’s opportunities. We will be able to overcome new challenges and have more freedom in how we live our lives…..How will things look when they are great…
It can be useful and essential for the brain to relax and rest. When the brain is in a relaxed state we can hand things over to the subconscious mind when we want to perform an automatic function. For instance, once driving a car becomes largely automatic or subconscious, we can concentrate on the unexpected and changing situations that occur. So, the automatic part of us is in a relaxed state and very useful it is when we need an emergency stop! However, if it becomes necessary to alter one of those automatic actions – imagine the brake and the accelerator were switched – we know how difficult it is to change.
When the brain in in a relaxed and restful state, that is when the two minds come together and focus on the same thing and when we are in that state where we have access to the subconscious mind, steered by our intellectual choices and decisions.